Friendship

That is a very a simple word, yet, it is so complicated when it comes to it. It forms a relationship between two persons and, of course, this will require some form of communications and time to be spent in order to know one another.

Regardless of what sort of relationships one maybe in (IE: Colleagues/ co-workers, just platonic (nonsexual) friendships, relationships with parents/ siblings/ relatives or with your other half) there is always a basic mode of communications. What then, is communication?

I heard someone said this before and I find it very useful and nice. This man said that “communication is a way of life!” Another man added that when communication breaks down, the relationship ends.

In fact, communication is never a one way thing. Just like the clapping of hands. You will need something or another hand to clap (it can be yours or another person’s hand). You cannot do the clapping just by using only one hand! Else it’ll be the grasping of the wind or slapping of the air around, which is absurd!

Is there any link between relationships and communication? Plenty!
Communicating with another person will give you the kind of relationship you will want to have with that person. It takes patience, effort and time to build a relationship. The level of communication will also enable you to determine the level of relationship you have with another person!

So, what am I talking about relationship and communication? Why is it that I want to write it down in my blog? Well, in time to come, you’ll know… I hope that it will be of help to me understand myself and enable others to know what I mean by friendship.

In Calvin Chung’s world, friendship does not exist when you are working together with a person. Even when you are in the same school/ class, you are not considered as friends as well. As long as you are in an organization and that the only way you see/ meet or interact with one another, is ONLY because of work/ studies or for whatever reasons OTHER THAN wanting to know the person better, you are not a friend. You are just a fellow worker/ have not even reached the level of friendship as well.

Therefore, if you are asking, how then and who do I consider a friend? I can say that a friend is not a taker. A friend gives and takes, it’s not always a one way road.

A friend would communicate with me at anytime, though not regularly but a friend will not communicate with me, just to tell me where they are/ or just to take attendance. In that case, what difference is it when a Company/ Organization which you are working for/ in, sends an email/ text message, just to inform you where they are and what to do.

Friendship is never forced upon. It is a process which one is willing, not because of any other things but because you just want to know that person individually and for who that person is! Friendship is supposed to be a willing process, comes right off the heart! It’s not something which is forced upon!

As the saying goes “People don’t care what you know until they know you care!” is really true!